For Teens

For Teens

One in three teenagers experiences abuse in a dating relationship. Abuse hurts and can have a negative impact on a teen’s well-being, health and safety. In dating abuse, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through physical, emotional and other forms of abuse. If you can answer “Yes” to any of the questions below, please call or text our 24-hour confidential hotline at 866-685-1122 immediately and know that it is not your fault.

Do You Feel:

  • Nervous or afraid around your boyfriend or girlfriend?
  • Alone, isolated from friends and family?
  • Pressure to say yes to sex?
  • Harassed on social media by your partner?
  • Constantly questioned about what you do, how you dress or who you are with?
  • Afraid to end the relationship because your partner has threatened to hurt you or others, or commit suicide?

 


Safe & Healthy Dating Relationships

Setting boundaries is an important part of any relationship. Both partners should know and respect each other’s wants and limitations. You should feel comfortable communicating your needs and concerns to your partner without ever feeling afraid. If your partner disregards your feelings, then you are not receiving the respect you deserve.

Our Teen Safety Planning brochure can help you recognize unhealthy behaviors in your relationship.

Teen Safety Planning

Remember to trust your instincts and listen to your gut. If you’re in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, stay calm and remove yourself from the situation. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

 


What is Sexual Violence?

“Sexual violence is any type of nonconsensual sexual interaction, ranging from unwanted sexual comments to sexual assault.” – NJCASA.org

Before you start engaging in any sexual activities with someone, you need to make sure that both of you are on the same page. Talk ahead of time about what each other’s limits, what they are OK with, and words or actions that will show when they are ready to stop. Every person has the ability to set their own limits and to give or take away consent, and to change their mind!

What is consent? It is permission to engage in a certain activity – and it’s as easy as FRIES!

Freely given – They should not be pressured, guilted, manipulated, or under the influences of drugs or alcohol

Reversible – anyone can change their mind at any time, and not be criticized for it

Informed – they must be clear on what they are consenting to, and not tricked into actions they haven’t consented to

Enthusiastic –  it’s not consent if someone isn’t excited or enthusiastic. If you’re not clear if someone is enjoying themselves, stop and check-in

Specific – consent should be ONGOING, and obtained for each specific time, place and action.

Call or text our 24/7 Helpline at 866-685-1122 if you want to talk about consent, have questions about  sexually assault, or have been sexually assaulted.